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Dec 2024

I'm an adult and never experienced it so i don't know--
i have a couple of romance stories/ideas i wrote: one about a foreigner in usa and another one that's a blend of horror. it's fun to write these stories/deas...but in reality, never really been in a real relationship...
would love to be someday.

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For me it was like this:

It starts out as just feeling incredibly happy. Just being able to talk to the person feels like the best thing in the entire world. You feel like nothing can stop you, like you can take on the entire world.

Once you get to know each other better and start getting closer, you physically desire the other person. You want to constantly be near them and "do" stuff.

At a certain point the initial infatuation dies down and turns into a more real love. You feel safe with them around, like you can trust them with anything and everything. Their presence can lift your bad mood and thinking about them make you smile. You want to do anything for them, help them up when they're down, make them laugh when they cry.


As for writing advice, I wager it will be pretty difficult to write about something as complex as love if you've never experienced it yourself. Though, while you might not have been in a relationship before, there are probably some relatable experiences in your life that you can draw from to write out a romance story.

It's overrated. Sorry romance lovers and incels... :laughing: it causes more pain and suffering than pleasure. The Buddha and Jesus are right. Far less trouble just diving into hobbies or being a monk.

It's a fun topic to write about and make fun of though...

(NOTE: this post is written by a divorced man who has had 3 strikes of failed relationships and was an incel during his late teens and twenties. Your mileage may vary... )

I'd argue it's not love that causes that pain and suffering, rather it's the absence of love that does.

yeah, opening up to and dealing with other people comes with risks and isn't always easy. But the solution isn't to just cut yourself off and live like a monk. That sounds less like enlightenment and more like throwing in the towel to me.

Also as an aside, Jesus was all about love, in all its various forms.

I've never been in a real relationship either but I like seeing other people happy.

I see it as someone you really care about and you want to share your life with them. When you no longer care about a person and you no longer want to be around them, then you have stopped being in love with them.

How does it feel to be in love? Well… a 150 year old magician breaks your heart day by day with his smile in these old glass negatives crying

But also… realizing love is also in your friends and your family too and that is the love I need.

And to know that you have friends who really care for you. No strings attached, no tricks, nothing out of pity.

That is love.

Honestly, if you’ve had a very close friend before, you know enough to write it. Platonic and romantic love have few enough differences that if you don’t smack your audience over the head with telling them just how in love the characters are, you’ll be fine.

1) absence of love yes. Tell me, with the high divorce rate, is it really love that's in place or is it ego / selfishness... in the pursuit of looks, money, status that is the foundation of many a relationship? Is love the predominant force in this world?

2) risks yes. Financial and emotional. Are you or do you know of anyone who is paying child support and/or alimony? What percentage of your income is supposed to be for that? Check your local laws.

3) love and forgiveness yes. Doesn't mean you don't have to take steps to protect yourself from further offenses. Do you lock your car or house door? Or is it wide open for thieves? Locking your door to prevent the thieves is not equal to having hatred for the thieves.

Love at first sight is when you feel like you've been friends with someone for years despite only just meeting them. It's having someone you can laugh with, and really connect with.

I’ve been with my partner for 9 years now (we met in middle school) In my experience the best kind of relationship is one where you’re best friends in addition to being in love. It’s also about having someone you can fully be yourself around or someone who feels like home.

i know what love is but never experienced it firsthand.
i've been in a long-distance relationship but...eh lol. not diminishing it just...i don't know.
i'm not in a hurry to be in a relationship at all though. i'm in my late 20s and there's still plenty of time.