I need girl bullying/mean to another girl ideas

[arxianfall]

Afraid I have limited experience in this category and nothing I'm imagining right now feels passionate enough.

The limitations are that the mean girl (girl1) is incapable of violence and the trigger is that girl 2 is forced to live with and use girl1's stuff.

I won't directly use stuff, I just need to get a feeling for it to form some new ideas.

[IndigoShirtProd]

Wait is the mean girl girl 1 or girl 2?

[arxianfall]

Girl1 is the mean girl. She's being mean to girl 2

[darthmongoose]

Oh boy, time to dig up my teenage trauma... hah...haha....

Things I have had terrible girls do in school and uni:

• Break stuff I own and then hide it and deny all knowledge.
• Regularly steal small things from me like pens and pencils or food from my cupboards.
• Talk about me "privately" to somebody else saying mean things when they know I'm within earshot. (This one is one of the most common).
• Play loud music in the next room in the middle of the night.
• Leave passive-aggressive notes if I leave something even slightly untidy but leave things very dirty and untidy after having friends around in an evening so everything is a mess for me to wake up to.
• Vacuum clean at 11pm at night!
• Put chewing gum in my hair.
• Put a used condom in my pencil case when I left my desk for a moment (no really, this happened to me when I was fifteen).
• Consistently call me by a nickname I've politely said I don't like.
• Make disparaging comments about my clothes, hair or physical build and then say "Oh I was just joking!" or "You're taking it too seriously!"
• Backhanded compliments like "Oh it must be nice having boys hobbies; you never need to worry about looking good."
• Lodging complaints with my employer, encouraging them to cut my hours.
• Ask uncomfortably intimate questions like about the colour of bodyhair (I'm ginger) or my sexual experience so they can laugh at my discomfort.
• Get in trouble in class with a supply teacher who doesn't know anyone's name and claim to be me.

[arxianfall]

Oh boy, time to dig up my teenage trauma... hah...haha....

It's why I asked here. It's a common trend.

And I can't relate because I was avoided as a target.

[darthmongoose]

And I can't relate because I was avoided as a target.

....Congratulations on not being a 5'1" tall gay ginger autistic tomboy?

[arxianfall]

....Congratulations on not being a 5'1" tall gay ginger autistic tomboy?

I love the tomboy tag!

Nah, I'm a short guy so obvious high-school target. However I was in my own world trying to scale walls and hanging out at the "scary" skatepark (I ride). So I think I was avoided mostly out of caution.

[bronte448]

In a future chapter of my comic, there's a trio of mean girls: Maddie, Catty, and Bratty. Undertale fans already know who I'm talking about. They gave a guy an embarrassing nickname linked to an embarrassing accident. They are always teasing "Burgerpants" about his accident.

Burgerpants bent over to pick up the tray after Catty tripped him. Maddie suddenly started sniffing the air. "Ew, you girls smell that?" she asked. Her cronies said, "Yeah" at the same time. "It smells like... burnt hamburger buns!" The girls laughed. "Burn!" Bratty giggled. Burgerpants ran off, embarrased.

I know Burgerpants is a boy, but this is just universal I think. Hope this helps.

[arxianfall]

Yes! every input helps!

[arxianfall]

Consistently call me by a nickname I've politely said I don't like.

uuu! I need to think of a shitty nickname!

[IndigoShirtProd]

Just generally getting on to you for thing out of your control like your culture or financial status.
I remember being insecure about not having the nicest phone in middle school. Some of the foods I ate were also made fun of. Just go for the insecurities teenage girls have about their relationship status, appearance, choice in friends, and hobbies. And @darthmongoose pretty much covered all of them

[AlydaB]

From my own middle/high school experiences, I've noticed bullying between girls is more subtle and not so (overtly) physical. Female bullies pretend they're your friend and deflect any accusations that they dislike you or are trying to hurt you, playing it off as a joke or trying to turn the blame on you (ex: "You're too sensitive! Don't take it so seriously!"). Verbal abuse is backhanded compliments or "teasing" insults meant to hurt you and poke at your insecurities, while physical abuse is limited to stuff like hair-pulling or "accidentally" stepping on your hands and feet, or jostling you. Lots of gaslighting.

As a kid, the girl who hated me with a passion pushed me into a creek (accidentally, of course :')), took every opportunity to step on me or shove me, made fun of my name, clothes, and appearance, messed with my food, lied about me to our peers (making up stories about bad things I did/said- though no one really believed her), and tried to manipulate/trick me into doing things that would get me into trouble with our parents and teachers. All the while claiming to be my friend.

She was less the snarky, giggling movie bully who enjoys tormenting the shy girl, and more a genuinely angry person who struggled with self-loathing and envy, targeting me because she couldn't stand that I seemed to have everything she wanted and couldn't have. To this day, she still dislikes me, but I'm glad to say we've reconciled.

[GumshoeComix]

the girls who bullied me (different girls per school ;w;)
-made fun of how poor I was
-My family unit and how dysfunctional it was at the time/telling everyone I had a restraining order even though I told her that in confidence.
-the way I dressed and my hair, since i often wore tattered hand me downs that had patches or rips in them and was never taught how to style my hair
-The way I talked, or If i talked at all I was either too quiet, too loud or talking too much, nothing was right.

-One of the girls claimed to be my friend but would constantly gaslight me into believing straight up lies, go out places without me then make a fake apology, make fun of me for being single in highschool. have me do chores for her all the time, or straight up insult me and then do the " wow someone cant take a joke haha!"
-borrow things and never return them or return them in bad condition
-calling me "the fat friend" even though I look at pictures of myself from back then and i was skinny af, I got a fucking ED over this
-Peer pressured me to show her my boobs when I was 14 (i didnt) and would casually make sexual jokes about me to her friends and touch me uncomfortably
-one time she upskirted me in public, and when I got upset she made me look like a bad guy by calling me prude. Her boyfriend later apologized to me for the way she was acting.
-and a year later she forgot my birthday
I tried to reconcile with her in 2019 but she didnt change.

If your characters are forced to live together, I can say from having a sister they will physically fight

[MarMarTche]

Oof, I had a girl grab my lunch and step on it when I was in elementary school because I was a fat lil chub and couldn't do anything about it. RIP sandwich x strawberry yogurt.

[MartaTod]

Deep breath. Here we go. This was different girls, not all happened to me.

• Had a birthday party and handed out invitations to everyone at the start of the class except me.
• Stood with other girls in a tight circle to block me from joining the conversation.
• As someone already mentioned: gossiping about you right in front of you, sometimes while even looking you in the eyes as they do it. They will try to talk shit about you even with your best friend like this.
• Constantly mocking clothes, especially if they can take a jab at a girl's underwear (granny panties for example).
• In general, girls got picked on for anything physical not deemed attractive: small breasts, being too tall/short, body weight and cellulite, acne and anything skin related (god forbid someone had a birth mark), eye brow shape, hair style... Also clothes and makeup.
• Pressuring or tricking a girl to reveal who their crush is, and then going over to the crush and their friends to loudly announce the girl crushes on them. Especially if the girl being bullied is considered "a weirdo" or "unattractive".

That's kind of all I remember right now.

[NickRowler]

Sometimes people act mean because it can come from trauma.

It could be that girl 1 has to deal with parents or a siblings being noisy or taking her stuff that she is left sort of over protective of her stuff. It might be silly that a teen is getting upset if someone uses their hairdryer, but sometimes those feelings can come from someone who was forced to give up or share everything and was left with nothing of their own.

It would be interesting to have a conversation about personal space and why girl 1 gets so emotional without just painting her as a one note villain. Maybe girl 2 was a only child or had parents who let her do whatever, and never really thinks about what is and isn't appropriate when it comes to being a guest in someone else's house.

Maybe this just comes from me having a large family and feeling like I never really owned anything until I was an adult.

[arxianfall]

Hey now, don't spoil upcoming episodes.

[Kittyfox]

Trauma dump time! /j

• Assuming things! Lots of assumptions about things they would most likely never know about, and aren't true/are exaggerated versions of the truth! (ex. home situation, mental state, disabilities/medical conditions, past trauma etc.)
• Saying/doing really messed up things, and then getting upset when they're called out or fought back against! Overall, being painted as the asshole of the situation.
• Pressuring someone into doing something they don't want to do, and then telling people about it like they did it by choice.
• Taking things out of context! Lots of that, we love to see out of context things used as judgement material.
• The "Who's Your Crush" game! (pretty much what martybarok said)
• The quality of your phone/clothes/etc. there was legitimately a girl in my middle school who would constantly ask to see my phone or what designer brand clothes i had, and called me cheap when i had neither like wtf

[siluscomics]

Damn, these things are so messed up! * hugs everyone *

[Manyana]

I don't know if you're still looking for ideas but here are the two that I never (and won't) forget. These are passive aggressive ones so there's no violence

One.

• Girl and I are in the same friend group
• I was spoiled and didn't really know how money works (like how hard it is to get money and such) so I always spend my money for my friends
• Come break time and we all fall in line to buy something, my friends asked me to buy this and that and I said sure, but turns out I lost my wallet
• They made snide remarks and comments, pouting and all that I didn't buy them what they want
• I didn't get to eat (I don't have lunch packed) and there are two "lunches" in school (so I just watched them eat during those breaks)
• Girl and all my friends didn't share their food with me (so I just watched them eat in those breaks)
• I saw my wallet (that I've been looking for in every corner of the room) on the ground at the foot of my chair
• Sometime later, I found out that Girl stole my money (one of our friends tattle on her)
• I asked Girl about it, she told me that it's only 20 PHP and it's nothing (20 PHP that time can already get you a lot)
• Everyone in the same friend group agreed with her so I couldn't push it anymore because they dismissed me

Two.

• Same friend group (but not really in our circle, but still friends)
• We had a disagreement (not related to the money thing) and then that friend took his pencil (not sharp, thankfully) and stabbed it slightly above my chest
• There's no critical wound or anything and since the pencil wasn't sharp, the lead didn't puncture my chest. But there's still a tiny dent on my chest.. It bleed and it hurt
• Then that friend cried
• I told that friend that I should be the one who should be crying because it hurt and I was bleeding
• My friend group laughed and didn't press on it
• So I moved on too

Thinking now, that was not something a friend (a whole group of friends) should do. I was originally not their classmate (I was a section higher. In our school, the "smarter" you are, the higher your section will be) but because they called me to their classroom, I willingly dropped a section to be with them (yup, stupid move. I had no idea that if you dropped a section, it would be hard to get to a higher section because you will no longer be considered "qualified" in the next school year). I wasn't smart, but I USED TO study and get recognitions.

I was never bullied though.