But this is literally nothing you can't fix, I know it is work but sometimes redrawing things helps you achieve closest to ideal results. Redraw it in the current comic style with the colours that you want them to have. That's basically my suggestion as the main reasons you hate it are the style and the colour, not the composition itself (which I personally find the most click-worthy among your current icons). Plus, I always love to do redraws just to see how much I evolved, it can give you quite an ego boost ;9
It is just my opinion and I of course can't make you choose x or y. And, as I said, I also don't know their dynamics and how it developed in detail, but what you described it is, I don't really get that vibe from the icon you prefer.
Also (this is just a theory I have and noticed for myself) for icons, I need something like a centre, something that immediately draws my eye to it, which (ideally) is somewhere in the centre of the icon.
In the original icon, you have them together as a bunch, side by side, in the middle, the background is around them. It's easy to focus on the characters with just one glance.
In the second, you don't have that "one spot" you can focus on because the characters are divided, so you don't know where to focus on. They work a bit more like two pillars or some kind of window frame, so the actual focus is what lies between them, which is basically just blank space. I think my main issue with this icon is that it doesn't have something that connects the two characters in one way or another and keeps my focus on it.
Here is what I would suggest from your description (and, again, it's really just a suggestion for the compostition - sorry that you can't see the image borders ;A;):
If she withdraws herself, it's usually easier to show through body language rather than physical space. This makes her also harder to directly confront which appears to be a general struggle, also for the male character. The awkwardly outstretched hand kind of shows his will to help but it still doesn't reach her.
I hope my really long ramble made half-way sense to you, and that it still can help you at least a bit with settling on an icon. Good luck!