1) I was...not...
2) I'm not even sure what that has to do with anything... ._.
My point was that THAT is not always as simple as you make it sound. You can 'plan' all you want to own a decent home, but if you can't afford it, you're not going to get one. Or you might not be able to get one for 20 years, or you might not be able to get one without taking out a loan for an ungodly sum of money that you'll never be able to pay back, assuming the bank even gives it to you...the list goes on and on.
THAT is what usually leads to despair and unhappiness. Not the mere existence of problems, but the existence of problems for which the solutions are so far out of reach they might as well not be there.
This is true...but I'd like to point out that wants and needs differ from person to person, and when it comes to personal happiness the line between 'want' and 'need' is very blurred.
For example, I spoke in a recent topic about how I spend most of my time by myself...I don't talk to people or even interact with them very often. And yet, I'm happy with this. I don't 'need' that kind of stimulation to survive or feel comfortable. And physiologically, my cells metabolize glucose, not friendship.
BUT on the other hand, a different person in my exact same situation could be suffering very deeply for the lack of that stimulation. They could spend every day wishing they had someone to talk to; they could come home to my messy room every night and cry themselves to sleep from loneliness, which has been shown to have profound effects on mental AND physical well-being.
So: is companionship a want or a need? How do you classify it, based on these two completely different case studies? Does the fact that I can survive and even enjoy life without it relegate it to the realm of wants? Or does the fact that another person might be languishing and becoming sick without it make it a need??
...And then, why does it matter? ^^; I've always had a lot of disdain for labels...if something is affecting you, worry about what it's doing, not what it should be called. Maybe if a millionaire is depressed, it's not so much that their treating their wants (more money, fame, respect?) like needs; maybe it's because they have needs (security, confidence, self-respect?) that they simply aren't aware of. '_' Maybe it's both.