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Jan 2018

EUUUGGHHH... my dad is visiting for a few days, and has never been particularly shy about his disdain for my artistic career. He’s been alienating everyone in our family because of his heavy handed bigotry, and I feel like I shouldn’t give him the time of day, but he’s so desperate to hold onto our relationship that I try to tolerate him. But day in and day out having to endure viperous, passive aggressive remarks about my failure in his eyes... fuck’s sake this is tedious. X___x

For me personally, I think you shouldn't force yourself to try and tolerate him because of what he wants. He doesn't sound like someone actually "desperate" to hold onto your parent/child relationship. His actions don't really show that, and if he did want to keep that connection, he would at least try.

I dunno...from my experience, my family haven't been too shy about cutting people off, regardless of blood relations. I know my mom did when a few cousins didn't care for their mother (her great aunt), and I know I did when a cousin tried to verbally abuse me (I lived in the same house as her for several years) because of her own mishaps.

I'd say that, for those few days, it might be wise to keep minimum contact with him. If he doesn't want to change a bit of himself in effort to keep that relationship, he's probably not as desperate as he claims to be. Course, I can't speak for your father and you (because you know him better than I do), but I just feel it's unhealthy for you.

You shouldn't have to endure this. If you're living a successful life (and success can mean many things) and you're happy, that's something a parent should want for you.

Yeah I completely agree. I don’t know why I feel so obligated to play to his ego; he was abusive to me as a child and knows how to play to my sense of guilt and fear pretty effortlessly. I think I’m just terrified of retribution if I cut him out of my life.. i moved from California to England to get away from him, but he’s pretty loaded financially and getting a flight and low key surprising me wouldn’t be out of his character. But, it’s only a few more days, so that’s a relief at least

It's honestly a shame that you have you put up with that and fear blacklash because you want to live a healthier life.

The sooner he leaves, the better. That way, you can get back to your own life and live it the way you want to.

I know this is just a typo but I just imagined some evil eyelashes.

I seriously appreciate your words; the whole situation makes me feel really small and alone. Thank you so much <3

Yes, trademarks cover IP but does not document ownership of that IP. It was created specifically for marketing situations and applies almost exclusively to such in the U.S. system. The way you used the term initially, you were certainly thinking of copyright. This thread is not a great place for detailed discussion of trademark and copyright procedures, but it could be useful to creators on this site. I suggest starting a thread specifically for that.

Haha. No. This isn't my first discussion about IP law.

I am not going to debate the matter any further in this thread.

dammit all my hands hurt like hell DX, I've only been drawing for 10 hours so stop hurting hands >:C

I already suggested that you start a dedicated thread. Had you done that, I would have been entirely willing l continue there. Instead, you opted to demonstrate beyond any doubt that you are not worth my time. Your account will be immediately blocked.

i love hearing the sound of birdsong as i work............. at 2am.............

how would u go abt it?

ik theres a mute feature, which seems p effective (might even hide DMs sent prior to muting?) but beyond that im stumped

You enter a discussion and proceed to have opinions not backed by basic knowledge on the subject. Then, when someone does something as simple as cite Wikipedia, you claim to know their mind and insist that they did not actually possess said knowledge. And you did all this in a thread full of artists, who presumably would have some familiarity with the subject.

How am I not worth people's time?

@joe_galindez @Zaboem

Alright...
Let's just move this... "friendly discussion" somewhere else.
Don't want the suthorities crashing down on this site.
As much as I want to see some people shed some light on the fine line between copyright and trademarks, I do believe that this goes too far.

Any final remarks?