There are so many variables that have to be just right for intelligent life to happen. Little things like a moon, as large as ours compared to the planet, to stabilize our spin and allow us to have seasons. Not only where we are in the solar system (the usual thing people talk about like liquid water) but where we are in the galaxy. Too close to the center, you will be bathed in radiation. Life that started to process the CO in the air to make O2. Having a star that is stable, non-binary. Those are actually super rare. Having a large planet like Jupiter to clean our system of loose objects. Having an abundant supply of water. And these are just the things to start the process. As of now we don't know if life starts easy or is a 1 in a million thing. An even bigger hurdle is to go from a single cell to multicell organism. Science really has zero idea if that's easy or a 1 in a billion chance. As far we know it happened once here. This is just to get the ball rolling.
Another problem people don't talk about is for a massive amount of time in the age of the universe, you can't have life. Until the first stars formed, then exploded, there was no heavy elements. Then they have to form stars again and make solar systems. So a large time span of the universe, literally nothing past hydrogen, helium, and a tiny amount of lithium existed.
Finally we come to the size of the universe. Here is the scary part scientist don't like. An infinite universe. If it's infinite, there are infinite intelligent being out there. There is an infinite number of YOU out there. No matter how small the chance of a perfect copy of you is, add infinite to the other side of the equation, the result is an infinite number of it happening. When you look at the galaxy and life, there is so many factors, that I am agnostic on the question.