Too true. We often put a lot of ourselves into our work, even unintentionally sometimes. For me it's often a character with a lack of confidence (and the fallout from that).
Ohhhh I need a friend like this! You're lucky. 
It's always good stuff. Especially when you can have a reader convinced one side is right, then change their mind. Not easy to do though!
100% agree! The more realistic the emotions, the more people will connect with it.
Sounds like your readers are going to be emotionally WRECKED, haha. (Sorry, I shouldn't laugh.... but also... hahahah poor readers.)
For sure - if it's not just sad, but impacts things on a deeper level, has secondary meaning and consequences, it'll always hit harder.
HAHAH! Not there yet, but working hard on it. Check back with me this time next year. 