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Jan 2021

So I've been working on Drachenseele and I've been working on trying to build on a more positive and confident mindset towards my own talent and work and tell myself that I can do it and do it well.

However, I've often noticed that the negative thoughts have been creeping back in every so often like "Your characters just jokes." "You can't do it yourself." "Maybe your whole story idea was just bad from the start and you should start over." among other doubts.

Now, I've been getting far better at ignoring those doubts and telling myself the truth that I can do it and my ideas are good and that people will like my stuff, but I'm wondering.... What is a good way to retrain my brain to focus more on those positive affirmations and having those be what my mind defaults to instead of the negative doubts like what happens currently?

I'm kinda curious what a good process for rewiring you mind to think more positively about your work is.

Thanks for the help.

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Taking a break is one way I help myself. Because if I don't smile and love my work again after being away for a while, that's a sign for me that I DO ACTUALLY either need to change things or turn my attention to a new/different story. Even if you can't not create for a day (guilty), try working on something else. It may light the spark again and boost your confidence once you return to whatever you're stressing about.

With art, I'm never satisfied with my abilities. That's where the support and encouragement of others honestly help a lot. But you can't rely on compliments alone. This is a great question! I'm interested to see how others do it.

Again though, my tip is to take a break and take a step back to really look at what you're creating and how it makes YOU feel. You're what's important.

I have struggled with what you are describing in every area on my life and I was really toxic to myself and gladly I somehow overcame this.

So for me, what has really changed my outlook on life is surprisingly a webcomic on webtoon that I can't find because it was on an account that I have forgotten the password to, but if I find it I will make sure to update because I think that seeing it firsthand is more impactful than hearing it from me haha
So this webcomic talked about a lot of tips and etc and one of them was:
Treat yourself like a kid. Gently and understandingly. For example, imagine a baby trying to say mama but instead failing only saying "ma-", what would your reaction to it? You probably would be like "you are so close!! Great job that was really a good try! Now let's try it again repeat after me". Now imagine if instead you would just start screaming at the baby "you are a total failure, you can't even say a simple word. I hate you, you can't even do a single thing right" that would be totally absurd and even disgusting towards the baby, so why do we treat ourselves like this? Wouldn't it be much better if you treated yourself like how you would treat the baby?

Also something that helped me with art specifically is to implement "I accept only converstive critism" to myself too. So if I don't like something that I created (which is totally ok and it is a part of our journey as artists) instead of giving hate to myself I try to look at it in an objective way and critically and understand why I don't like it so I can improve myself. It really helps with focusing on how to improve and not getting stuck in the "oh no it look so ugly I am not fit to be an artist I should just give up" feeling.

That's a pretty good way of thinking about things. Never thought about the "baby" comparison before, but that reminds me of the "Treat yourself as your own best friend" advice I've heard in the past. You know, you'd never stand for hearing someone say the negative things you say about yourself to your friend, so why say them to yourself?

Heck, I recently realized today when I was encouraging a friend of mine about how cool and unique their series was and I thought to myself, "Dang, I should really be saying this to myself as well. because I'd never say the discouraging things I say to myself to hem or any of my other creative friends here."

So I guess it's a matter of keeping not just the "Treat others the way I want to be treated" rule in mind, but also "Treat myself as well as I treat others." Not to the point of vanity and spoiling, no, but talk to and encourage myself the same way I encourage my friends in that regard.

Good point. You never know if something will take off unless you publish it. To quote a friend of mine, "It's not that people don't like your work, the people who like it just haven't found it yet."

Don't overwhelm yourself and try to keep realistic goals.

When I started my comic seven months ago, I put myself unrealistic goals, and made big unfrequent updates that ended up in rushed artwork and so on.

I'm re-making parts of those chapters now and going for healthier schedules with smaller but more frequent uploads.

I'd say that once you finish a part of your batch, give yourself a rest, then go back and check it out again and make some corrections where you feel you need to.

Also, see where you think you could improve so you could later ask for help (or google it) later.

If you feel insecure about one or more of your skills related to your work, train said skill.

Simple......not neccesarily easy, but simple.....

If you are insecure about your writing, learn more about storytelling.

If you are insecure about your art, find some good tutorials and practice.

If it is another skill, work it......

Whenever you see any art at all, think of something good about it! Reading a comic, what makes you like that panel? A doodle by someone you know -- what do you like about it? You wouldn't look to whoever drew it and say "that's trash, a joke, stupid and meaningless." You'd compliment it! Slowly train yourself not to critic other's work when you first look at it.

Now, pretend that your art isn't done by you. What do you like about it? It doesn't have to be perfect to still be something that's nice. The more you appreciate art, all of it, then gradually you'll start appreciating yours too.

Well you will always have bad thoughts about your work, but you can reward yourself. Such as looking at every mistake as a "learning experience" rather than a mistake. Don't use negative works like "Messed up", "fucked up", "bad", etc. Always look at your work as a work in progress as you become a better artist and writer.

Get some QUALITY Quality Assurance readers, maybe even other creators to be critique partners with who will tell you the truth, but not be jerks about it.

You also have to realize 99% of people who say they are going to do what you do, DON'T OR QUIT, that means you are ahead of 99% who want to do what your doing. Take pride in that, don't get an inflated ego, but be proud of how far you have come, be open to always learning, and look at your art then do something else that makes you happy to reward yourself.

Of course, you're always only one day away from becoming one of the ones who quit. But having done the hard part, getting started, all you have to do is
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."

I find the following has worked for me, and it's how I advise my students to think about any of their creative endeavours. (I'm a voice teacher, but my students know I draw, so we sometimes talk about that when we have time.)

  • Accept and appreciate where your skills are at right now. You're likely already much better at what you're doing than the majority of people!
  • Appreciate where your areas of strength are and enjoy them.
  • Identify specific areas of weakness.
  • Address those areas of weakness through focused practice and critique. If it's stiff art or poor anatomy, sketch from life and photographs a little every day. If it's writing, join writers groups (IRL or online) which give good, honest critique. And so-on. By taking steps to improve areas of weakness, you not only improve - you'll also feel good because you're actively doing something about them. It's empowering.
  • Appreciate improvements and successes, no matter how small and/or seemingly insignificant!
  • Don't rush the learning process, and try not to get impatient. You're in this for the long haul and so long as you cultivate good habits, you will improve over time. Not overnight - over time.

This goes for singing, art, writing, and pretty much every creative endeavour you can pursue!

For every bad thoughts that creeps up to me I always counter it with positive things because I always remind myself of the words: "Because I CAN" no questions asked.
like it has become my mantra on almost anything I set my heart to do.
"The idea isn't good? -- I will make it so, even as to scrap it and rebuild it into better ideas BECAUSE I CAN"
"The goal seems impossible -- then I will make it possible no matter how hard it takes, BECAUSE I CAN"
"That is just a hopeless dream you're chasing -- Very well, that's the reason why I will chase it until I reach it no matter what it includes in process BECAUSE I CAN"
For other people, that approach makes it look like I'm intimidating, but I always thought, if I cannot believe in myself or trust myself in the process then who will? It's not being overconfident, it is having the right amount of confidence to go on and keep myself on moving forward, it's a confidence where I know my strengths and weaknesses and accepting them openly, a confidence to accepted the fact that not all the time I'm the best, but at least I manage do what I can do to the best of my ability BECAUSE I CAN; happiness is a state of mind, it's where you are now, or nowhere at all, Always remember that the bitter things can only be better because of you and because YOU CAN.

I think it helps to learn to be forgiving of yourself for not being perfect yet. Especially if it's something you've only done a few times before, or if you're younger and you don't have too much experience yet. Like it's easy to forgive someone else and see the good stuff in their work, it's harder to do it to yourself.

Sometimes you have to step back and say "I have to post it now or I'll never post it." Like every page of every comic I've ever posted is covered in issues, but they take so long to make, that if I don't do it, it'll never happen. So, I work to a point, and just keep going to a different page, saying "I'll fix it later" but 9 times out of 10 I won't fix the issues becuase weeks later when it's time to post the thing I look back at it and I'll realize "this is good enough to go."

Like you have to humble yourself and say "this is who I am, these are my flaws, and I have to let everyone else see it" and that can be really hard to do.

Because art is a lot like music where if you practice alone and no one can hear you, you cannot improve as much as when you perform and get ready for a performance. In art you can study alone for a long time but you gotta post in order to see the improvements that you really want to see in a quicker amount of time, so I see it as a sacrifice--I humble myself and take the L if I screwed up a page or made a mess--but I don't usaully regret even the pages that were hard to read or not as nice. Because, in the end, it made a performance that other people could enjoy, even if it had some rough edges. And I learned a lot, and I got better, so it helped me feel more positive about my abilities as a comic artist.

I've been there. It's an awful state of mind to be in, but as they say, sometimes we're our own worst critics. Once, I even considered quitting writing for good. Then I somehow ended up making my story into a 4 book series. :sweat_smile: Dunno how that happened, but it did. After taking a little break, the ideas started flowing and I remembered why I loved writing the series again. Something I've found that's helped when in that self-doubting state is to remember what I love about the story and why I created it in the first place. Use positive thoughts to block out the negative ones. For instance, why did you write/draw this story of yours? What's something that you've enjoyed while working on it? What's your favorite scene and why?

You might not ever see your work as perfect, but that's okay too. I know I'll never view any of my works that way, but you just gotta keep writing/ drawing (Sorry, I'm not sure if you're working on a comic or novel :sweat_smile:) Whenever you're feeling really down about your creative ability, it could also be time to give it a little break. Sometimes, while we love our works, we can get burnt out on them. Maybe try focusing on a smaller project for a bit or give it a few days away from your work without thinking too much about it. Try not to be so hard on yourself. You've got this.

I relate to this... I guess in the end, what keeps me going is wanting to tell my story, seeing the final villain show up, interacting with the fans, and so on. XD

Do you know (or have you asked yourself) why you are having these specific doubts?

I try to remind myself that I actually like my work and that I'm not a bad writer. It just seems "bad" or "tired" because I've read it a million times. When I read a sample out of context and with some perspective, the work is good.

Whenever this happens to me I just remember that I've put way too much time into my comic, so its far too late to turn back. I've come to learn that any thoughts of self doubt I have are all moot points because I know that pursuing my dreams is more important than a few measly thoughts, so I wont let them hold me back.

P.S. Meditation is a good way to get better control of your own mind, as meditation helps you become more conscious of your own thought patterns. (which it looks like your already doing).