Love at first sight or lust at first sight?

[DokiDokiTsuna]

I would say to be less of this and more like your second and first paragraph, but that's just my opinion

I can understand that, at least. But...I mean, technically those things are questions. Questions that someone with an opposing viewpoint is free to answer. =/

You could find it offensive that I'd even ask such questions, but they weren't meant to offend; they're legit. If someone did want to try answering them, I'd be glad to hear what they have to say.

I think it's possible to genuinely not understand how someone could think a certain way without thinking less of them as people; not understanding a certain viewpoint doesn't have to be equivalent to thinking of that viewpoint as barbaric. But that's just my opinion.

[Tanako]

Hmmm.. I see a lot of “ Neutral“, this is getting interesting can’t wait to see final result.

[SleepingPoppy]

I picked neutral! I don't think I will ever experience love at first sight. I can't even tell if someone is attractive to me without having some time to know them. But I certainly think people can sense connections, or build them, quickly. I often think of people have a warm or cool essence, and I tend to like "warm" people. I can imagine someone having a more intense version of that and calling it love at first sight?

I think attraction at first sight might be a useful word for something a kin to "love at first sight".

[AmazementComics]

It's true. People love to exaggerate. Love is personal, it takes time and patience. I've heard some married couples in the past say it was "love at first site and" I claim BS. They're just in the phase of wanting to date each other. I can be really difficult to create a romance between characters in a story.

[Kiweevil]

I picked neutral, because I probably don't really have the authority to say. I'm not exactly a person who can experience lust at first sight?

I believed my partner was certainly attractive at first sight, though it wasn't "true love" like in fairy tails. At the time of me meeting him I was already in a relationship, though it was an unhappy and unfair one. I broke it off with the previous partner to which he kinda freaked out on me and accused me of using him for sex....? When we had never actually had sex even a single time (we were together like 1 1/2 years)....? Anywho, I began to fall in love with my current partner but it wasn't an overnight thing. It was an "infatuation" (for lack of a better word) that turned into love. Though being technically demisexual myself, I acknowledged that he was physically attractive but was never into him like that until I fell in love with him. So I guess that's kinda how I knew?

Also I can only feel attracted to and/or fall in love with one person at a time. So that's a thing I guess. Must've meant it wasn't really love with the first guy

[Jenny-Toons]

I think attraction at first sight might be a useful word for something a kin to "love at first sight".

Ditto this.

For all the crushes I ever had, it started out with platonic feelings rather than straight lust or love. I wanted friendship first before romance (if even that).

I can't say it's impossible -- it's no different than someone having a feeling about a house and not wanting to enter it. You can't really explain it, but your gut is telling you something (be it bad or good). But I don't think it happens as often as people think it does. It's a mixture of different feelings, and whether or not someone decides to act on it can it become something more (if it ever does).

[borzoiteeth]

As an ace, I will say I believe in... interest in first sight? What that interest is varies. For some is sexual, some it can be a personality trait, aesthetics, voice, the list can go on.

I clicked neutral as I do know people who have as far as they are concerned, have "fallen in love at first sight" and its worked out great. I also know those were it didn't. While I will NEVER understand it, its not unrealistic. Love is one of those words that has massive different meanings person to person.

However, just because it's a thing that happens in reality doesn't mean it will translate well to fiction. People can suddenly die out of nowhere realistically but unless written with good foreshadowing most people will consider the writing cheap. If you can show enough about the character, the things they yearn for and then introduce a character that appears to show those qualities, I think it can work (if I were your audience, my father on the other hand is such a romantic you don't have to write a good reason for people to hook up, he just wants happy sap).

[oshirockingham]

it's not possible to have lust when you saw a very cute puppy or a cute kitten for the first time, there's only love except for those with certain sexual fetish disorder.

for people, both exist.
you can have lust at first sight, and also you can have love at first sight.
and since your question is Do you believe it's possible to fall in love with someone at first sight? then my answer is yes.

[Skaarfy]

For some reason I thought about insta-love. For me that's like eh, are you willing to sacrifice your time and dedication for this guy or die for this random stranger you just met? Insta-attraction makes more sense, be it being attracted by their looks, their compassion, their sense of humor or just their overall personality. Not sure if you want to be so intimate or share your deepest, darkest secrets with this person, but you can be attracted to them.

But, hey, peeps are pretty random so I can't really generalize how people behave when it comes to love. We are different so really you can approach the love at first sight or lust at first sight however you want to.

[yansusu]

This is something I have been thinking a lot about recently. I'm aro-ace so personally, I get neither one side nor the other. I've seen some stories (e.g. I think there was one in our newspaper a while ago?) where people share how they met though and there's been a fair share of people who saw somebody and went 'That's the person I want to marry!' and then they did. I'd say that probably counts as love at first sight? So I'd say, yeah, it's possible. Just not as likely as Hollywood would like us to believe

People simply don't enter into that kind of...perspective and level of caring for another human being based on their looks alone. And if you do, honestly, what does that say about your priorities and the way you value other people?? A pretty face is all it takes to win your soul? What about those people who you don't happen to be attracted to; are you capable of loving them as well?

This is also something I've been thinking about and I think for me the answer is somewhere between 'There's different kinds of love' and 'We all make assumptions'.
Like, let's not talk about relationships for a moment. Have you ever met a person and thought 'Wow, I wanna be their friend'? This has actually happened to me. And it's less about how they look and more about the impression they leave me with.
I think that there are just some people around that seem so pleasant even at first sight that you feel instantly drawn to them. This might have to do with how they look as well but you don't have to be a beauty for that. Even a person that isn't conventionally attractive can seem very pleasant to be with.
Now, I think that when we talk about friendship, this is easier for people to agree with. As soon as it is about romantic/sexual relationships, people will start to find it shallow. But I think (maybe that is because of my orientation though) that it's basically the same thing. It's not just looks. It's the impression they leave you with which has to do with looks, behavior (e.g. the way they stand/move/sit/use their hands/laugh/smile), maybe even the tone of their voice or what they're doing at that moment.

So I think it's not necessarily shallow or superficial or anything and doesn't say much about us other than 'I like this type of person'. Now, for some people, that might not count as 'love' already but then again, I think that people can also fall out of love later on if they notice this person isn't what they originally thought them to be.
At that stage, it's an initial feeling of romantic attraction - maybe contrary to one of sexual attraction since we're making a distinction here.

[Random_Guy]

Speaking as an Aromantic, I don't think there's such a thing as love at first sight.

I think you can find someone attractive at first sight, but until you know their personality then it's not romantic attraction it's physical attraction.

[indagold]

Too bad theres no "other" cause I think it has to do with your personality, life experience and emotional range and I think lust is different than romantic interest. Those who are more emotionally reserved and be intuitive might not fall head over heels for someone, it may take them a while to find that love spark, others who are more emotional and impulsive might go berserk at first glance or it could be just someone who had so much bad luck in relationships they no longer feel love anymore at first sight cause of fear. And you can lust after someone separately from loving them or the other way around.

Also before you come at me with "buh wuh about muh aces", i'm asexual, and this is just my observation. I think a lot of "love at first site" is based on psychological stuff rather than orientation cause there are a shit ton of people who aren't asexual who are super picky who they date or love. I'm a super intuitive and reserved person and have also felt love, think its just a mix of a lot of stuff.

[ButterflyEmpress]

To me, 'love' at first sight is when you really like the way that person looks and not the actual person. You can't have an opinion on something you don't know about. I wouldn't call it love since there's nothing else to it. It's more infatuation/mild crush/curiosity.