I think I might have been interviewed without me realizing it by a cute girl at the gym last night. She got away with my religious beliefs, what time i come to the gym, my ethnicity details, what i do for a living, my age, and all i got was her name.
I'm not good at this.
Yeah, it is important to not overshare too much. I remember once told a stranger at a library I was single. They then asked me out and when I said "No, thanks" they started stalking me around the library.
My beef is that the conversation about hands got cut short. I'm a trained palmist (sorry, "cheiromancer") but I rarely get to talk about it.
I can understand, the only issue with asking subs is they generally want to be nice and aren't willing to say the things you have to hear. Also they may not have no idea of what to critique on. Seeking outside help can be more resourceful as they have 0 connection to you, and usually (hopefully) can give you better insight on what you do need to improve on. It's not fun, but it is necessary if you hope to grow. After all nobody makes the perfect omelette without cracking a few eggs, shredding cheese, slicing mushrooms, sauteing the spinach, measuring out the milk, putting the right temperature, carefully folding the eggs, and picking out the right herbs on their first try. Hope things turn out better and you get three new subs 
Inhale I have this one friend that I think might be toxic.
It's sometimes frustrating to talk to her because sometimes she'll try to make me look dumb. I don't really know how to explain it, but I'm super ditsy in public and sometimes I say stupid things. But a lot of the time she puts words into my mouth and makes me look like a dumbass when she clearly knows what I meant.
It's just frustrating to talk to her sometimes because every time I call her out for something, she accuses me of victimizing myself and yells at me. And the argument just goes on and on because she never admits her mistakes. It's a bad habit of hers and a pet peeve of mine.
I've tried to distance myself from her but at the same time she's the closest friend I have and also she's generally a pretty sweet person.
But I figured that most of my insecurities relating to my social life are usually connected to her in some way.
Being around her causes me to overthink a lot - when I'm talking to her sometimes she pulls out her phone and texts some other person - like I know a lot of people do that but my mind just tells me that I'm not interesting and she just has better friends to be with. I'm a pretty boring person.
Bleh! It just sucks. It sucks.
I haven't been doing anything for my VN for like weeks and it was supposed to be released for halloween...sigh. Switching anti-deprassants during production period is not something I recommend...
Oh man! I have a passive personality type and I know this kind of friendship all too well. I was never sure whether it was me or them or a bad mesh of personalities.
I figure that sometimes people mistake my passivity for submission. Some people love to be leaders of their friendship group and, actually, there's nothing wrong with that. If you're trying to lead somebody who doesn't want to be led, however, it can make some nasty friction. I've had several friendships where my friend seems to think I'm constantly disrespecting them and I'm confused about what I'm doing that's annoying them so badly...
i still dont get people who are so against outdoor cats. man, theyre like a degree of separation from being straight up wild animals, particularly in places where they breed w wild cat species. what, dyou expect everyone to turn their houses into a kitty jungle gym rather than let it just get some fresh fucking air?
i used to have the outdoorsiest of outdoorsy cats, and he could not be satisfied indoors. he needed an expanse of new territory to explore, and he needed to hunt, bc hed spent his earliest months abandoned in a garden. so we gave him that. when it turned out we had catnappers in the area and he got stolen, we gave him back to the shelter when we got him back. yknow what theyre gonna do? make him a farmer's cat, not a bloody indoors cat. the responsible thing when it wasnt safe for him to be an outdoors cat here, was to let him be an outdoors cat somewhere else, somewhere safe.
if your cat dies bc it got run over on the main road, the problem wasnt you letting it out. it was you deciding to keep a cat that wasnt satisfied staying indoors while living so close to a main road. damn.
My cat liked to sleep in the undercarriages of other people's cars. We think he got taken for a ride, got off, and didn't know how to get back home.
His name was Marco, after the Animorphs character.
This reminds me of a thing I read the other day about a family with an outdoor-indoor cat. Apparently their neighbor had a problem with the cat, so they took it 10 miles away from it's home, and dumped it. The family is pressing charges, and still looking for their lost pet.
We have a few cats like that, but we only let them in the yard. Not because of cars... mostly, but cuz people can be so awful for no reason. Hell, every Halloween black cats turn up mutilated around neighborhoods in our city as a holiday "tradition". Plus I live in a desert, and the last thing I want is a coyote, or javelina to get one of my cats.
I always had indoor/outdoor cats. They like to lay in the yard and eat field mice.
The current cat I have now I only have because he just showed up one day and inserted himself into our family between the other cats.
He's a lazy shit who became afraid of the outdoors now tho.
oh thats a bloody dick move.
yeah, id definitely keep a cat in on halloween regardless. i just cant respect the concept of just keeping a cat in for its safety, regardless of how it feels about it. its not fair! quality of life > length of life, imo.
Well, if they get past the yard there's not much that can be done. Personally I don't think being torn apart by a larger predator after desperately trying to escape would equal a "quality life", but different strokes for different folks. I've personally seen, and buried, too many pets who've been killed in their youth to be completely "who cares what happens."
Unless that cat was previously a stray, of course. Since they're not completely ignorant to the dangers of the outside, and know how to defend themselves. I'd still be wary if I didn't see the cat within a few weeks, though.
ahh yeah, im probably biased bc my cat was previously a stray, and he was very competent outdoors. that didnt stop us from losing our shit if he didnt come back for his second breakfast though.
i just dont think its fair to condemn the concept of outdoor cats across the board
i wont lie, cats do do some pretty dumb shit
